I was going to write about a completely different subject. It’s the eve of Thanksgiving and I was going to write about happiness and how to promote and avoid becoming complacent, etc etc. And then I got my latest issue of Rolling Stone, and in it was an article about a girl that was raped at UVA.
I’m going to warn you now, this is not a happy post. It is also possible that it will upset you if you have been a victim.
Unfortunately I felt compelled to see what this article was about, and then I immediately remembered again why i carry such a general distain towards humanity. This article not only describes in detail what happened to her (I will NOT go into detail, but it involved and entire pack of frat boys in a room in the most prestigious fraternity there.) That alone literally made me want to murder these men that I do not know. Murder. Like I decided at that point that these people give up their right to exist in this world when they make that choice. If I were their god, they would suffer and perish for thinking and acting as they do.
And that’s the core of it: I CANNOT condone, understand or even conceive, after ANY amount of alcohol (and trust me, I’ve had as much as my body can take and still function) even CONSIDERING forcing a woman to have sex with me… let alone HOLDING HER down with a GROUP of men and each one of them making the choice to restrain, abuse, defile, desecrate and then assist all the others in doing the same to her!? HOW!? HOW do you EVER even EXIST knowing you CONSIDERED doing something like that? If I was somehow mind-controlled in to such an act.. the moment I came out of it and realized what I had done, I would find her, throw myself at her feet, allow her to do whatever she wished to me and inflict whatever amount of pain and suffering she wanted on me, and then, if she didn’t kill me, I would kill myself.
When you willingly and knowingly make a PRE-MEDITATED, SUSTAINED, ORGANIZED choice to devalue a COMPLETELY
INNOCENT woman (or man.. let’s not be sexist here) like that, you are the worst thing on the planet. At that point the EBOLA VIRUS is BETTER and more NOBLE than you are. It deserves this life MORE than you do because AT LEAST it’s simply doing what it exists to do, without the conscious process to choose differently. It is being natural. HUMAN RAPE, regardless of what some might say IS NOT NATURAL. And do you know why? Because you THINK. You DO have the choice, and even somebody like me who’s been compared to a SOCIOPATH knows that such things are SO INCREDIBLY WRONG that there’s ZERO justification and ZERO reasoning.
“Oh they’re just boys being boys.” or “They are genetically programmed like that.” ARE YOU FUCKING SERIOUS? That’s like me chopping your arm off in front of you, frying it up over a fire with a little Ponzu sauce (I do love me some ponzu!) and eating it in front of you. And then when they ask me why I did it I say “Oh well I was REALLY hungry.” and that makes it okay.
Mind you this comes from me. ME!! I’m a pretty damn hedonistic, sexual person and even with my reputation I’m far mellower now than I was at my hormonal peak. Even then.. NEVER could I justify restraining a woman (against her will.. willingly is a whole different story..) and actually enjoying violating her like that. I honestly don’t even think my equipment would work. And call me new-age but I really like my partners to be on board and enjoying it as much or more than I am…
But you know what? All the horrors above aren’t even the worst part. The worst part is that when she finally told somebody about it, when she overcame threats, and fear and trauma, she was told to shut up and forget it. Her friends were concerned it would affect their standing at school. Two weeks later she SAW the guy who had led her to that frat party, to the room where those men had been waiting for her, and do you know what he said? “Hey Jackie (obviously the name has been changed for the article) are you ignoring me? I wanted to thank you for the other night. I had a great time.” What!? WHAT!? That’s not even biblically evil.. that’s beyond it.. that’s sickness. He REALLY believes it’s okay for him to talk like that, as if the event was pleasant and this girl’s horror doesn’t exist. It’s a level of programmed psychosis deeper than simple sociopathy.
Even after THAT, after she quit her job where she worked with this guy and missed all her classes for a week out of trauma, even the DEAN of the school encouraged her to keep it quiet to protect the school’s reputation. The FUCKING REPUTATION. Because apparently the ACTUAL character of many of the students who attend the school doesn’t matter, so long as the reputation is intact.
Even writing about this is making me feel sick, it’s rage, pure unadulterated rage. And you know, I wish that I could say it was an isolated incident. Or just that school’s particularly dark underground. But no, according to research and statistics, this particular story is the average situation among US Universities. 1 in 5 women on a college campus is a victim or rape, but only about 12% report it. This is not an isolated thing, this is a cultural thing. And the rapists get away with it, more often than not. The statistics also say (and I found this truly alarming) that 9 out of 10 campus rapes are the result of repeat offenders, and further, the average repeat offender has six rapes under their belt. And they are getting away with it.
This CANNOT happen unless there is a SOCIETY and infrastructure in place to SUPPORT it. The bottom line is, this doesn’t just happen because people ignore it, it happens because some sick, sick people encourage it! Somewhere, a douchebag alumni dad is teaching his son that it’s okay to go to college, join a fraternity that openly objectifies women and use them for whatever they so desire whether they agree or not. Maybe he doesn’t use those words, but his stories, philosophy, and “the reputation of your fraternity, brothers, and school above all” IS the rape culture. And when these children grow up to be rapists, all the grown-up rapists who are now often rich with old money, affluent and in positions of power simply band together and use their resources to keep it quiet. They use denial, guilt, fear, shame, aggression and threats minimize the victim and nobody thinks anything of it or looks into it until somebody dies. Even then, action is questionable.
It sounds like a big conspiracy. But this is a system that exists. It is FACT. It is up to those of us that know better to teach our generation and the ones below us that this is wrong on every level it can be, and must be destroyed. Fortunately women are becoming stronger, making them harder to victimize and more outspoken in order to bring these things to light, but the institutions that support this rape culture must be dismantled from the top down.
Fortunately, the government has now stepped in and the Department of Education’s Office of Civil Rights is performing extensive compliance reviews on MAJOR schools and universities that can result in the nuclear bomb of higher education – the revoking of all government funding for a school found in serious violation. It’s enough to make everyone take notice.. but it’s only a start. These rapists and their culture must be battled and dismantled until nothing remains except the stories of the evil, savages that teach future generations that they cannot be allowed make the same mistakes.
The people like the rapists mentioned above are what bring the collective of humanity down as a whole. They are parasites attempting to survive among the people that could make this world a better place, or, at least, the people who aren’t trying to make it any worse. One way another, they, meaning the culture that created and sustains them have to die.
**Note: Let me just say that I understand this is not only not just a US problem and that so many other terrible things happen in the US and around the world every day. This is just one example of one that I happened to read about and reacted strongly to, but I am in no way singling this situation out among the unfortunate mass of human idiocy/evil that plagues the entire world. It’s an irony that the same species that seems to produce truly enlightened individuals also produces those who are more evil and animalistic than any other sentient being on the planet.